The truth is, I don’t have a lot of friends. And I’m okay with that. The number of people you know doesn’t reflect the person I am on the inside. It doesn’t make me ‘cooler’ if I had more, nor does it make me ‘lame’ for not having as much as anyone else. People encounter thousands maybe millions of individuals throughout their lifetimes. I don’t really have any expectations on anyone staying for long. People come and go. People drift, even your best of friends, it’s life. Just because I’m not as close with the people I once were before, doesn’t mean I don’t care for them. I have my life and they have theirs, I can accept that. There’s just not too many people I could turn to and genuinely feel like we are friends.
“Don’t act as if you’re so innocent and people actually like you. If you only knew the shit people say about you behind your back”.
Yeah, I know a handful of people don’t like me, I don’t expect everyone to like me. It’s impossible to ask for such a thing. I don’t mind if people hate me. I don’t care what others have to say about me, to my face or behind my back. You could call me fake all you want, saying I’m putting up a front. In the end, no matter what your opinion is, I’m doing me. I know that and that’s all that really matters. I never asked anyone to like me. I was never trying to win the hearts of thousands. You could all hate me secretly or publicly. It’s honestly just whatever. As you grow up you make a lot of friends and you lose mostly all of them. What people need to learn and accept is that we are just people, people to interact with and make life more enjoyable and less bland. Even if it means drama and conflict, we will continue to go back to the human race for comfort and entertainment. You could put labels and titles on everything, saying you’re bestfriends, boyfriends, girlfriends, whatever. It doesn’t really matter. As long as the human brain still functions, people will continue to talk.
Screw all the negative comments thrown at you and turn it into something positive. Haters will be your motivation while Lovers will be your inspiration. Brush all the hate off as if it were nothing. Because it really is nothing. Through thick and thin, you’ll find out who your true friends are and most of all, you’ll find out where you stand.
Yeah, I know a handful of people don’t like me, I don’t expect everyone to like me. It’s impossible to ask for such a thing. I don’t mind if people hate me. I don’t care what others have to say about me, to my face or behind my back. You could call me fake all you want, saying I’m putting up a front. In the end, no matter what your opinion is, I’m doing me. I know that and that’s all that really matters. I never asked anyone to like me. I was never trying to win the hearts of thousands. You could all hate me secretly or publicly. It’s honestly just whatever. As you grow up you make a lot of friends and you lose mostly all of them. What people need to learn and accept is that we are just people, people to interact with and make life more enjoyable and less bland. Even if it means drama and conflict, we will continue to go back to the human race for comfort and entertainment. You could put labels and titles on everything, saying you’re bestfriends, boyfriends, girlfriends, whatever. It doesn’t really matter. As long as the human brain still functions, people will continue to talk.
Screw all the negative comments thrown at you and turn it into something positive. Haters will be your motivation while Lovers will be your inspiration. Brush all the hate off as if it were nothing. Because it really is nothing. Through thick and thin, you’ll find out who your true friends are and most of all, you’ll find out where you stand.
The inevitable problem between a female and a male best friend friendship.
One of the main problem that develops between a female and a male best friend is that one of the them ends up falling in like or love with their best friend. They get stuck with figuring their feelings out towards them, but in all honesty, it was bound to happen one way or another. You fall for them, no matter what you try to do to stop the feeling. It just grows naturally. That’s one thing that sucks.
It gets difficult talking to them when you start to conceal your feelings and boil it all in. You want to confess, but you’re afraid things will be amiss. You’re scared that if you take the leap of faith, you’ll lose this person forever. You’re scared that you’ll end up in rejection. You’re terrified of the outcome. You want to take the risk, but it’s just so damn complicated. You wish you were able to just know their thoughts right on the point and know who they’re interested in, but you don’t want things to become awkward. You want to tell them, “Hey, I like you,” but in all honesty, it doesn’t work that way. You wish you can tell them, but you don’t want to screw things up and make things awkward. So, more than half the time, you end up being stuck between staying just as friends or to tell them.
This is one of the problem and honestly, they hold this title “best” friend for a reason. If they’re going to let feelings screw over your friendship between you two, then they were not really your “best” friend. You fall for them inevitably because they grow on you. They’re someone who knows you better than anyone else. They’re someone who you dump all your problems on and they won’t judge you. They’ll be the person to lend you an ear and be there for you. They’re the person who sticks with you through thick and thin. They’re the person who loves you for you and accept you for the way you are. They’re the person who you just end up loving for each and every flaws. They’re the person who you just start to see them beautifully no matter what have happened. They’re your best friend for a reason and that’s why you end up falling for them. You see them for them, so it becomes a problem when you fall for them without knowing so. The inevitable.
It gets difficult talking to them when you start to conceal your feelings and boil it all in. You want to confess, but you’re afraid things will be amiss. You’re scared that if you take the leap of faith, you’ll lose this person forever. You’re scared that you’ll end up in rejection. You’re terrified of the outcome. You want to take the risk, but it’s just so damn complicated. You wish you were able to just know their thoughts right on the point and know who they’re interested in, but you don’t want things to become awkward. You want to tell them, “Hey, I like you,” but in all honesty, it doesn’t work that way. You wish you can tell them, but you don’t want to screw things up and make things awkward. So, more than half the time, you end up being stuck between staying just as friends or to tell them.
This is one of the problem and honestly, they hold this title “best” friend for a reason. If they’re going to let feelings screw over your friendship between you two, then they were not really your “best” friend. You fall for them inevitably because they grow on you. They’re someone who knows you better than anyone else. They’re someone who you dump all your problems on and they won’t judge you. They’ll be the person to lend you an ear and be there for you. They’re the person who sticks with you through thick and thin. They’re the person who loves you for you and accept you for the way you are. They’re the person who you just end up loving for each and every flaws. They’re the person who you just start to see them beautifully no matter what have happened. They’re your best friend for a reason and that’s why you end up falling for them. You see them for them, so it becomes a problem when you fall for them without knowing so. The inevitable.
In every relationship, whether it’s a friendship or something more, there’s always going to be one person who puts more effort into making it work than the other. It happens. Most of the time I try my best to be that one that does more than enough so I don’t leave them with the short end of the stick. It just sucks when it gets to the point where you start to think you’re doing too much, and that you hardly get anything in return. Receiving effort isn’t a big deal but isn’t so much to ask for either. I really question our friendship/relationship when I feel like I’m the only one who cares. It sucks that it’s such a hard thing to bring up. You don’t want them taking it harshly and getting hurt over it. You don’t want to mention it, but sometimes nothing will change unless it’s brought up to subject. It’s hard to ask for something that should be given without being asked or told. It just really loses it’s meaning when it turns into something they feel like they have to or should do, rather than wanting to do it from the bottom of their heart.
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